the {six} steps of a woman.
so if you follow my blog closely, you know last week i wrote about “the {six} steps of a man” from the sermon pastor preached. well, this week he preached six more steps, but for us women. and might i just add before i tell you about these six step, every woman, including myself, in our congregation was hollllllllerin! he really went in on us sunday! i told him i needed some oil after that sermon haha! it was everything from my mouth wide open, my eyes lookin crazy, to just yellin out! lol. it was a great service!
so if you’re a woman & think you can handle it, keep on reading. oh, & if you’re a man who thinks this is just going to make you laugh, there is a little tid bit in here for you & also don’t forget to read the steps for men! you’re not getting away that easily ;)
step 1. SLOW UP. Isaiah 40:31
you don’t have to make everything an emergency. you (us women) watch these “real” housewives of *insert city* & all it is is drama, drama, drama & don’t no real man want that! slow up. relax. it’s okay to wear your heart on your sleeve, but don’t get your heart broken every time something happens. sometimes the only time to get a blessing is to wait so you can grow strong. slow up. (now THIS is a good part).. just because he winked at you doesn’t mean fall in love. “i bought you a fry, i don’t want no relationship!”. slowww uppp. you can push a man out of your space because you go too fast. slow up. (THIS is good too & common if you ask me).. just because your friend is getting married in october doesn’t mean rush your man to get married in september! you need to examine your man in “four seasons”. you need to see him in all different circumstances to see how he really is. slow up.
step 2. SHUT UP. Proverbs 6:2 & Proverbs 25:24
((now i just have to say that when i was taking my notes when he said shut up i literally drew this.. -___- next to the words haha.. he was comin for us i tell you!))
you don’t have to tell your friends everything about your man, even the good. don’t brag how good he is in bed then wonder why she’s in your bed with your man. shut up! you have to learn when suggestions & advice turn into nagging. just shut up. you can say the right thing but at the wrong time. learn to shut up. “if a man sees another man look at his woman he feels good because he sees what i saw & what i got”. but a woman gets jealous. chill out. don’t be asking “did you see her?!” if a man wants you, he wants you! so don’t trip, shut up, YOU got him. woman are so sensitive & emotional. so whyyy are they so hard on OTHER women?! talking about their weave, you didn’t buy it so shut up! if you mad because this woman got up at 5am to go to the Y & you stayed up til 4am eating twinkies, shut up! don’t be jealous. sometimes a woman just needs encouragement & to be built up by another woman. women in the church can’t be turnin up their nose to a new woman in the church & turn them away. be inviting. shut up. gossip. the scripture says tell the goodness of the Lord. put a lid on it. you don’t have to tell everyone’s flaws. shut up.
step 3. FIX UP. 1 Timothy 2:9-10
if the back of your hair looks like hell’s kitchen you don’t need to be memorizing Proverbs 31, you NEED to be in the salon. natural ain’t meant for everybody. some look like a style, others just look nappy. fix up. dress for your size. if you’re a 24 don’t buy a 14. women of all sizes can look good, just gotta look good doin it. if a man doesn’t like your size, keep it movin. and don’t be lookin like you just came from hollywood but have this nasty attitude! (AMEN!) there is nothing worse than a pretty face with a nasty attitude, a stacked woman but empty in the brain. you’ve been hurt inside so your out looks good, but your inside is messed up. fix up! put some makeup on it if you need it, but focus on the heart overall. when you fix up spray up. you gotta smell good too. (lol). sometimes men are lazy. he might talk to you but won’t take you home to momma. he’ll take you to the late late showing at the movies or drink 4 beers to be interested in you, but he’s not proud of you. fix up.
step 4. COVER UP. (a little more geared toward single ladies)
fix up, but also cover up. if a deer is just out there in the open, the man will take it just because it’s there, but that doesn’t mean he wants it. men like what they like, you can be wearing a burlap sack, they like what they like. you don’t have to show it all. just because you’ve got it doesn’t mean you have to flaunt it. cover up. men like to be surprised, like gifts on Christmas. so fix up, but also cover up. the scripture says don’t tempt the man. woman are put together so perfectly so men will like you. when adam saw eve he was like whoa! if they want you they want you, if not peace out. not just your clothes, also in the bedroom. if you take it too far with someone & then you see them in your church, it’s hard to take a step back from that. some things are good but only in their place. a fire in the stove or fireplace is good, but not in the middle of your livingroom. just like sex. it’s about your physically physical (STDs), emotional (attachment), & spiritual (God’s Word) health. if a man really wants you, he WILL wait.
step 5. SHOW UP. 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 (geared toward the married woman)
the reason why God asked you to wait is because there’s a place for it. Folk get married then don’t show up. you can’t have a headache every night. just because your husband said no to new furniture doesn’t mean you can say no in the bedroom. you are a unit! as one. folk don’t get married to be celibate. some people have marital prostitution. if you don’t get the ring, car, purse, shoes, etc you want, you hold out. don’t do that. show up. satan temps us when we don’t have that unit. married folk come together. when you don’t you get tempted. you were so cold to your spouse then the right person at work is nice & they get tempted. you can’t always go to bed in flannels, sometimes you need that victoria’s secret.
(i told you there was something for you in here..) MEN: you do need to be nice & romantic, not cruel & stank. shower before you get in the bed, take her out. treat her right if you want her to SHOW UP.
step 6. LOOK UP. Psalm 121:1-4
God will help you be the woman you need to be, just look up. you don’t have to put all these steps together yourself, look up. it won’t happen overnight, a lot of women have things in the past that hold them back from what they can be, look up. God will help you. some need to slow up, shut up, fix up, cover up, show up, but ALL women need to LOOK UP :)
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xoxo ♥